A TOAST TO THE SATC GIRLS

"We made a deal ages ago, men, babies, doesn't matter; 

we're soul mates."

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Carrie's shopping attire ftw!

J'adore Dior + poufy skirt :D

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Random musings:

Which SATC girl do you identify most with? 

I think it's a mix of Carrie and Charlotte for me :] It's hard to explain.

Try. 

No. You don't try to explain feelings and instincts. 

Sparks in a relationship or in Carrie's case, marriage; tough to maintain? 

Definitely.

What do sparks mean to you? 

Good question (this is turning into a catchphrase of sorts) since I've never been in that kinda position where sparks are needed. Jason said it's hard to create sparks in singapore; maybe cuz' we're really limited when it comes to activities and places... But something he said made alot of sense - it's not that complicated to create sparks; it could just be something that both of you do together (don't have funny thoughts please) or a place, which leaves good memories. Hmm ok that might not be sparks but at the end of the day, sparks in a relationship is the stuff that keeps it alive, interesting and special! So... having a special place, song, activity can create that special something, isn't it? 

Let's say in a friendship, it gets stale after a while. But say, there's a place that you guys shared or something you did together which was a first for yourself, you would remember that, won't you? In future, when people mention that place/thing or when you revisit it, the first thing that comes to mind is that person! For me, it's like that. 

Ok back to the main topic (xD) well I did answer the question already. 

So... adding on, being the longwinded person I am, and blissfully idealistic, what keeps a relationship going would be communication. Don't drown me with big ideas that I can't identify with and don't have an answer to. 

Humor is important too. 

Gifts don't create sparks if they're given all the time. And they don't have to be huge ones like a diamond.. just meaningful things. To show that you care? Still care? 

And nobody likes it when you stop trying; not even dressing up to go out anymore! That's a crime. I feel, that if you think whoever you're going out with is important, you would dress up. Even if you hate it, it's respect. That's why I feel disappointed when people don't. Before you get indignant and noisy, swear you wouldn't put in that extra bit of effort for someone you're out to impress? /nods/ I'm not wrong. 

Of course, when you're in a relationship, you'll fight. What's important is that you listen, see things from another perspective and forgive if it's a reasonable mistake. Alot of times, people make the mistake of closing the door of communication and being defensive. Shouting and asking people to "Shut up!" do not work. Crying doesn't work too. And we all know people who are too consumed in their own self-pity and can't see beyond "i feel letdown! i hate this!" so good luck talking to them. It's like talking to the wall. Unless you're in the wrong or extremely desperate to preserve whatever's there, usually people won't take that kinda treatment. I don't need this so goodbye.

  

Haha I'm talking rubbish right? I'm getting a headache just trying to form ideas. When it comes to topics like THIS, I'm a complete rookie. It's like Chemistry - "don't even ask me anything!"